How should we treat our Relatives as we grow up As mentioned in Al-Quran Parents-Sisters/Brothers-Spouse-Children-Other Relatives بِسۡمِ اللّٰهِ الرَّحۡمٰنِ الرَّحِيۡم Parents – Highest Status after Worshipping to Allah Show kindness - Do not disrespect - Do not shout - Be humble - Show mercy AlBaqarah 2:83. Do not worship (any) except Allah, and to parents, show kindness.
لَا تَعۡبُدُوۡنَ اِلَّا اللّٰهَ وَ بِالۡوَالِدَيۡنِ اِحۡسَانًا
AlIsra 17:23. And your Lord has decreed that you worship none except Him, and (show) kindness to parents. If they attain old age (while) with you, one of them or both of them, do not say to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them, and speak to them a gracious word. وَقَضٰى رَبُّكَ اَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوۡۤا اِلَّاۤ اِيَّاهُ وَبِالۡوَالِدَيۡنِ اِحۡسَانًا ؕ اِمَّا يَـبۡلُغَنَّ عِنۡدَكَ الۡكِبَرَ اَحَدُهُمَاۤ اَوۡ كِلٰهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلۡ لَّهُمَاۤ اُفٍّ وَّلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُلۡ لَّهُمَا قَوۡلاً كَرِيۡمًا AlIsra 17:24. And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord, have mercy on them both as they did care for me (when I was) little. وَ اخۡفِضۡ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحۡمَةِ وَ قُل رَّبِّ ارۡحَمۡهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيٰنِىۡ صَغِيۡرًاؕ Sisters/Brothers – Important as the Consciousness of Allah Have fear of Allah regarding fulfilling rights of kinship-sisters/brothers AnNisa 4:1 And have consciousness (of your duty) toward Allah, Him, through whom you ask your mutual (rights), and (fulfill your duty) toward the wombs (kinship-sisters/brothers). Indeed, Allah is All Watcher over you.
وَ اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ الَّذِىۡ تَسَآءَلُوۡنَ بِهٖ وَ الۡاَرۡحَامَؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ كَانَ عَلَيۡكُمۡ رَقِيۡبًا
Spouse – Sign of Creation of Allah Regard them as a gift of love and mercy from Allah Do not treat them as you own them like your property If you dislike anything in them, show patience as Allah may have goodness in them ArRoom 30:21. And among His signs is that He created for you mates from yourselves that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you love and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who reflect. وَ مِنۡ اٰيٰتِهٖۤ اَنۡ خَلَقَ لَكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَنۡفُسِكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا لِّتَسۡكُنُوۡۤا اِلَيۡهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيۡنَكُمۡ مَّوَدَّةً وَّرَحۡمَةً ؕ اِنَّ فِىۡ ذٰلِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّقَوۡمٍ يَّتَفَكَّرُوۡنَ AnNisa 4:19. O those who believe, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion (against their will). And do not put constraint upon them that you may take away a part of that which you have given them, unless they commit open lewdness. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah has placed therein much good. يٰۤاَيُّهَا الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡا لَا يَحِلُّ لَـكُمۡ اَنۡ تَرِثُوا النِّسَآءَ كَرۡهًاؕ وَ لَا تَعۡضُلُوۡهُنَّ لِتَذۡهَبُوۡا بِبَعۡضِ مَاۤ اٰتَيۡتُمُوۡهُنَّ اِلَّاۤ اَنۡ يَّاۡتِيۡنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍۚ وَ عَاشِرُوۡهُنَّ بِالۡمَعۡرُوۡفِ ۚ فَاِنۡ كَرِهۡتُمُوۡهُنَّ فَعَسٰىۤ اَنۡ تَكۡرَهُوۡا شَيۡـًٔـا وَّ يَجۡعَلَ اللّٰهُ فِيۡهِ خَيۡرًا كَثِيۡرًا Children – Your responsibility to raise your offspring as obedient to Allah and kind to people – Teach them Do not associate anything with Allah Be thankful to Allah and your Parents Establish Prayers – Enjoin Good – Forbid Wrong Be Patient and kind toward People – Do not be Arrogant Be Humble in your walk and polite in your talk Luqman 31:13. O my son, do not associate with Allah. Indeed, association (with Him) is tremendous wrong.
يٰبُنَىَّ لَا تُشۡرِكۡ بِاللّٰهِؕ اِنَّ الشِّرۡكَ لَـظُلۡمٌ عَظِيۡمٌ
Luqman 31:14. And We have enjoined upon man about his parents. His mother carried him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years, so give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the journeying. وَ وَصَّيۡنَا الۡاِنۡسٰنَ بِوٰلِدَيۡهِۚ حَمَلَتۡهُ اُمُّهٗ وَهۡنًا عَلٰى وَهۡنٍ وَّ فِصٰلُهٗ فِىۡ عَامَيۡنِ اَنِ اشۡكُرۡ لِىۡ وَ لِـوَالِدَيۡكَؕ اِلَىَّ الۡمَصِيۡرُ Luqman 31:17. O my son, establish the prayer and enjoin kindness and forbid iniquity, and bear with patience upon whatever may befall you. Indeed, that is of firmness in (the conduct of) affairs. يٰبُنَىَّ اَقِمِ الصَّلٰوةَ وَ اۡمُرۡ بِالۡمَعۡرُوۡفِ وَانۡهَ عَنِ الۡمُنۡكَرِ وَ اصۡبِرۡ عَلٰى مَاۤ اَصَابَكَؕ اِنَّ ذٰلِكَ مِنۡ عَزۡمِ الۡاُمُوۡرِۚ Luqman 31:18. And do not turn your cheek in scorn toward people, nor walk in the land exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not love each self-conceited boaster. وَ لَا تُصَعِّرۡ خَدَّكَ لِلنَّاسِ وَلَا تَمۡشِ فِى الۡاَرۡضِ مَرَحًا ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخۡتَالٍ فَخُوۡرٍۚ Luqman 31:19. And be moderate in your walking, and lower your voice. Indeed, the harshest of all sounds is the voice of the donkey. وَاقۡصِدۡ فِىۡ مَشۡيِكَ وَاغۡضُضۡ مِنۡ صَوۡتِكَؕ اِنَّ اَنۡكَرَ الۡاَصۡوَاتِ لَصَوۡتُ الۡحَمِيۡرِ Relatives Grand Parents – Uncles/Aunts – In laws After believing in Oneness and Worshipping Allah Kindness to near Relatives is as important as Kindness to Parents Fulfill your duties to relatives and give them their rights AlBaqarah 2:83. Do not worship (any) except Allah, and be good to parents, and the near relatives.
لَا تَعۡبُدُوۡنَ اِلَّا اللّٰهَ وَ بِالۡوَالِدَيۡنِ اِحۡسَانًا وَّ ذِى الۡقُرۡبَىٰ
AnNisa 4:36. And worship Allah and do not ascribe anything as partner to Him. And to parents do good, and to near relatives. وَاعۡبُدُوا اللّٰهَ وَلَا تُشۡرِكُوۡا بِهٖ شَيۡـًٔـاؕ وَّبِالۡوَالِدَيۡنِ اِحۡسٰنًا وَّ بِذِى الۡقُرۡبٰى AlIsra 17:26. And give to the near of kin his right, and the needy, and the wayfarer, and do not squander (your wealth) extravagantly. وَاٰتِ ذَا الۡقُرۡبٰى حَقَّهٗ وَ الۡمِسۡكِيۡنَ وَابۡنَ السَّبِيۡلِ وَلَا تُبَذِّرۡ تَبۡذِيۡرًا