Marriage According to Al-Quran بِسۡمِ اللّٰهِ الرَّحۡمٰنِ الرَّحِيۡم AnNaba 78:08 Husband and wife as a pair is Allah’s plan of creation And We have created you as pairs. وَّخَلَقۡنٰكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا AnNisa 4:1 Husband and wife are for one another O mankind, fear your Lord who created you from a single soul, and He created from it its mate, and He has spread from them both a multitude of men and women. And fear Allah, Him, through whom you ask your mutual (rights), and the wombs (kinship). Indeed, Allah is All Watcher over you. يٰۤاَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوۡا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِىۡ خَلَقَكُمۡ مِّنۡ نَّفۡسٍ وَّاحِدَةٍ وَّخَلَقَ مِنۡهَا زَوۡجَهَا وَ بَثَّ مِنۡهُمَا رِجَالاً كَثِيۡرًا وَّ نِسَآءً‌ۚ وَ اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ الَّذِىۡ تَسَآءَلُوۡنَ بِهٖ وَ الۡاَرۡحَامَ‌ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ كَانَ عَلَيۡكُمۡ رَقِيۡبًا‏ AlFurqan 25:74 Make Dua that Allah grants righteous wife And those who say: “Our Lord, grant us among our wives and our children the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the righteous.” وَ الَّذِيۡنَ يَقُوۡلُوۡنَ رَبَّنَا هَبۡ لَـنَا مِنۡ اَزۡوَاجِنَا وَ ذُرِّيّٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ اَعۡيُنٍ وَّاجۡعَلۡنَا لِلۡمُتَّقِيۡنَ اِمَامًا‏ ArRoom 30:21 Allah has placed love and mercy between husband and wife And among His signs is that He created for you mates from yourselves that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you love and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who reflect. وَ مِنۡ اٰيٰتِهٖۤ اَنۡ خَلَقَ لَكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَنۡفُسِكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا لِّتَسۡكُنُوۡۤا اِلَيۡهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيۡنَكُمۡ مَّوَدَّةً وَّ رَحۡمَةً ؕ اِنَّ فِىۡ ذٰلِكَ لَاٰيٰتٍ لِّقَوۡمٍ يَّتَفَكَّرُوۡنَ‏ AlAaraf 07:189 Marriage for comfort in wife and Dua for good child He it is who has created you from a single soul, and He has created from him his mate, that he might find comfort in her. Then when he covered her, she carried a light burden, so she went about with it. Then when it became heavy, they both prayed unto Allah, their Lord: “If you give us a good child, we shall indeed be among the grateful.” هُوَ الَّذِىۡ خَلَقَكُمۡ مِّنۡ نَّـفۡسٍ وَّاحِدَةٍ وَّ جَعَلَ مِنۡهَا زَوۡجَهَا لِيَسۡكُنَ اِلَيۡهَا ‌ۚ فَلَمَّا تَغَشّٰٮهَا حَمَلَتۡ حَمۡلاً خَفِيۡفًا فَمَرَّتۡ بِهٖ ‌ۚ فَلَمَّاۤ اَثۡقَلَتۡ دَّعَوَا اللّٰهَ رَبَّهُمَا لَٮِٕنۡ اٰتَيۡتَـنَا صٰلِحًا لَّـنَكُوۡنَنَّ مِنَ الشّٰكِرِيۡنَ‏ AnNahal 16:72 Allah has made wives, children and grandchildren for you And Allah has made for you from among yourselves wives, and has made for you, from your wives, children and grandchildren, and has made provision for you of good things. Is then in falsehood that they believe, and in the bounty of Allah that they disbelieve. وَ اللّٰهُ جَعَلَ لَـكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَنۡفُسِكُمۡ اَزۡوَاجًا وَّ جَعَلَ لَـكُمۡ مِّنۡ اَزۡوَاجِكُمۡ بَنِيۡنَ وَ حَفَدَةً وَّ رَزَقَكُمۡ مِّنَ الطَّيِّبٰتِ ‌ؕ اَفَبِالۡبَاطِلِ يُؤۡمِنُوۡنَ وَبِنِعۡمَتِ اللّٰهِ هُمۡ يَكۡفُرُوۡنَ Performing Marriage It is better that father of the bride or the groom should perform khutba-e-nikah ceremony. It will be a pride and a memorable event for the married couple. Recite Khutba-e-nikah in Arabic and read the translation. In order to express the importance of marriage, mention the following points. * Allah has commanded and invited mankind to get married. * Marriage is a sacred relationship between man and woman. * Marriage fulfills religious duty to earn Allah’s pleasure. * Marriage is a sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). خطبۃ النکاحMarriage Sermon All the praise belongs to Allah. We praise him, and we ask Him for help and we ask Him for forgiveness. أَلْحَمْدُ لِلّٰهِ نَحْمَدُهُ وَ نَسْتَعِيْنُهُ وَ نَسْتَغْفِرُهُ And we seek protection with Allah from the evils of our own souls, and from the sins of our actions. وَنَعُوْذُ بِا للّٰهِ مِنْ شُرُوْرِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَ مِنْ سَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا Whomsoever Allah guides, then no one can misguide him, and whomsoever He sends astray, then there is no guide for him. مَنْ يَّهْدِهِ اللّٰهُ فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَ مَنْ يُّضْلِلْهُ فَلَا هَادِيَ لَهُ And I bear witness that there is no deity except Allah, He is One, no associate is there to him. وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَّا إِلٰهَ إِلَّا اللّٰهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيْكَ لَهُ And I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and His Messenger. وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَ رَسُوْلُهُ O mankind, fear your Lord who created you from a single soul, and He created from it its mate. يٰۤاَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوۡا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِىۡ خَلَقَكُمۡ مِّنۡ نَّفۡسٍ وَّاحِدَةٍ وَّ خَلَقَ مِنۡهَا زَوۡجَهَا And He has spread from them both men in multitude and women. وَ بَثَّ مِنۡهُمَا رِجَالاً كَثِيۡرًا وَّ نِسَآءً ‌ۚ And fear Allah, He, you ask your mutual (rights) through Him, and the wombs (kinship). Indeed, Allah is, over you, All Watcher. وَ اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ الَّذِىۡ تَسَآءَلُوۡنَ بِهٖ وَ الۡاَرۡحَامَ ‌ؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ كَانَ عَلَيۡكُمۡ رَقِيۡبًا‏ O those who believed, fear Allah as rightfully He should be feared, and must not die except while you are in submission (to Allah). يٰۤاَيُّهَا الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ حَقَّ تُقٰتِهٖ وَ لَا تَمُوۡتُنَّ اِلَّا وَ اَنۡتُمۡ مُّسۡلِمُوۡنَ‏ O those who believed, fear Allah, and speak words directed to the right. يٰۤاَيُّهَا الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ وَ قُوۡلُوۡا قَوۡلاً سَدِيۡدًا ۙ ‏ He will make righteous for you your deeds, and He will forgive for you your sins. يُّصۡلِحۡ لَـكُمۡ اَعۡمَالَـكُمۡ وَ يَغۡفِرۡ لَـكُمۡ ذُنُوۡبَكُمۡ ؕ And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, then certainly he has attained a great achievement. وَ مَنۡ يُّطِعِ اللّٰهَ وَ رَسُوۡلَهٗ فَقَدۡ فَازَ فَوۡزًا عَظِيۡمًا‏ Perform Nikah Now Nikah must be performed in the presence of two adults as witnesses. It is good idea to have one witness from each side. Perform mutual agreement between the bride and the groom. Proposal: (Iejab) - Ask bride if she is willing to accept name-of-groom as her husband. Acceptance: (Qubool) - She should answer yes. Proposal: (Iejab) - Ask groom if he is willing to accept name-of-bride as his wife. Acceptance: (Qubool) - He should answer yes. Mahr: AnNisa 4:4۔ And give the women (at the marriage) their nikah gift (mahr-dowry-now/later). Mention pre-agreed amount if it is acceptable to her. Record the agreed amount. Legal Marriage License from the City Authorities (should have received it before nikah). Complete City forms. Get bride and groom and witnesses signatures.